Let me clarify…

I feel the need to clarify some things regarding my New Year’s resolution.  In case you didn’t hear about it, I took a challenge to go on a date every month of the year in order to meet new people.

Here’s 5 things that I’d like to be clear about:

1. Initiating a conversation and meeting new people IS NOT PURSUING.  

2. I do not intend to lower my standards just because I’m going on dates.

3. I don’t plan on settling for less than I know I deserve.  I know that I’m worthy.

4. I am not dissatisfied or discontent with the love of God. He will always be my first love.

5. I pray everyday that God would be at the center of it all…for real I’m not trying to control it.

I think that too often we assume that God wants us to be passive observers who wait for him to put everything in our lap.  I just don’t think he’s like that at all!  It’s good to wait on God but we also have a part to play, action to take and decisions to make…he’s not going to do it all. If you think that God makes all of your decisions for you, where’s the freedom in that? (Not to mention, all those bad decisions you’ve made…probably wasn’t God, right?) Relationships are no different than any other decision you make in life and by going on a few dates, I am in no way removing God from the equation, I am just partnering with him.

Also, the whole point of this resolution is to stop living in fear.  How many times do we overanalyze and freeze in our tracks because of fear?  TOO OFTEN.  I wonder if we use the excuse of ‘waiting on God’ to stay buried in our fear of action. I’m done with that…I’d rather risk and fail than be crippled by fear.

It’s amazing how we are either offended or inspired by a call to action.  Especially a call to action for us women, because you know we are just supposed to stay quiet, at home, knitting on the couch hoping that a big strong man will do everything for us. Lord, have mercy.

I’m sorry but I just don’t buy it.

I hope I made myself clear and that those who might make assumptions or judgments would learn a little bit more about me.  I also hope that more people take risks this year and do things they’ve never done before!  Fear no longer has a voice here!


12 Dates in 12 Months

My New Year’s Resolution?

To risk more.  To stop trusting fear. To let go of my ego. To get a date or two or twelve.

All these things correlate, in one way or another. But that last one came up because of a little challenge that I have accepted for 2014.  The goal: To go on at least one date for each month of this year.  I put money into this, so it’s serious.  If I’m not in a relationship by the end of the year, I get some money…so it’s a win-win.

I’m 27 years old and seriously, I’m ready to move out of this singleness season.  When I complained about being single at 24…I had no idea what I was talking about.  All the single 30 year olds are thinking…“and she thinks she knows now?!” not really.

But instead of complaining, I’m going to start dating.

It’s not that I was purposely not dating before.  It’s just that I don’t do the best job of meeting people outside of my community.  And let’s face it – nothing is happening for me there!  I also don’t really know how to risk looking like an idiot when it comes to the opposite sex.  It’s embarrassing to put yourself out there and not be received.  The age old game is to never appear like you’re really into someone, so you can always save face.

But I don’t want my life to be about saving face and protecting my ego.

I want to risk more. I want to be nervous, awkward and excited all at the same time. And I want to get some freaking dates.  Even if I have to initiate them.


If you’re a single dude (and i’ve met you – no creepers), and you want to go on a date…let me know which month and I’m there.

Anyone else, I am open to being set up on dates.  If you have friends, feel free to connect me to them.

This is going to be fun!