It’s a love/hate relationship


In college, a friend asked me to be a part of an intimate community and it freaked me out. I thought it was weird that people would actually choose to be committed to people they weren’t related to or dating.  I was sure it would turn into Song of Solomon Bible studies and too-close-for-comfort conversations. So I said no.

Then I went on this trip called The World Race.  And I learned about true, authentic community. I wrote a blog about what it looked like to live in this community while on the Race. Even though I still had to make a choice to really ‘buy in’ to community, it was kind of already set up for me. I didn’t have much of a choice; my choice was to honor and love despite my circumstances and my teammates.

Today, I still live in community.

house-normalWe live in a cute house with a yellow door and wood floors.  The yellow door is always open and there are always people coming through.  But those of us who live together, do life together. And all the simple truths about community that I discovered on the Race are still true:

1. Forgive, forgive, forgive!  CHOOSE to forgive.
2. Don’t hold onto silly things…but talk it out.
3. Serve one another…putting others’ needs before your own.
4. Trusting the process that God has people in.
5. Honor each other…Outdo one another in showing honor!

This community is a true treasure.  But it is still a choice to live out each of these truths. In between laughs, we sometimes take it too far and hurt feelings.  We often give each other feedback and get vulnerable about our fears, anxieties and insecurities. Sometimes when it’s hard I think, why do I chose to live like this?  It would be so much easier to just live by myself and do my own thing. No one is forcing me to do this! But what has been produced from this choice and sacrifice (i’d call it sacrifice for introverts), is a richness and a strength of relationship that can’t be created overnight. There has been a trust and a loyalty that has been built that makes it all worth it.

We make meals together, we watch movies together, and we are usually laughing together.

I wouldn’t want it any other way. I love these weirdos.



5 thoughts on “It’s a love/hate relationship

  1. bethany, great blog! secretly, i love the love/hate relationship with community 🙂
    ps- who’s the creeper in the second photo?

  2. LOVE your heart! And so blessed that you’ve taught me so much about what choosing in looks like and that we get to do it again briefly! 🙂

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